Portrait of Sexual Harassment Victims and Religious Support of the Parents in Aceh

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A. Introduction
Man is born into the world through several phases of life, ranging from the natural womb, baby, child, teen, adult to senior called with life span development, (Santrock, 2011). Child phase is a natural continuation of the womb and the baby who grows and develops into a child up to the age before 18 years, (Undang-Undang Republik Indonesia No. 35: 2014), Children born is as a consequent natural on the biological processes of their parents. Some parents are highly expecting the birth of children, in the hope as successor descent, look at them in the functional level, and can provide significant value in the family.
There are also some parents set the spacing of giving birth depending on the economic, social, and psychological conditions (Tromsdroff G, 1999).
Government cares for children's rights as can be seen in Law No. In Islam, a child is a tremendous gift from Allah that must be maintained, protected, raised, and educated, because it will be accountable before Allah. The existence of the child causes a vertical relationship with God (hablun min Allah) and horizontal relationships with parents and the community (hablun min annas). Children born in the sacred state ketauhidan pass values to tend to the right path, according to human nature to love Allah. In the economic context, Islam forbids parents who do not want to have children for fear of poverty, socially Islam encourages us to settle the family, reproduce offspring, to have a JIP-The Indonesian Journal of the Social Sciences {315 strong family structure. Psychologically Islam forbids us to live the children in a weak condition physically and mentally. Similarly, in the context of Acehnese tradition, the people of Aceh have put the child in a high position. It can be seen from the various steps being taken by the large family when the presence of a child in the womb until the age of adolescence. The people of Aceh have stages in the realization of gratitude when they want to welcome the birth of a child.
There is a customary tradition at the time the mother is pregnant, among others; ba boh kayee (bringing fruits), jak me bu (bringing rice) and peuramin (go on a picnic). But for rich families, this ceremony was held also in second pregnancies. The tradition done after birth is Koh Pusat (cutting cord) azan and iqamah, tanom adoe (planting placenta), peucicap (feeding a baby with sweet things like honey or dates), cukoe oek (haircutting), boh nan (naming), peutron aneuk (bring the baby outside the house and let the baby's feet touch the ground) and aqiqah (sacrificing the goat, cooking it and giving it to the poor people and the relatives). Some of these traditions have been disappeared like peugot tangkai (making fetish) before the child is born, peutroen dapu (getting down the mother from the warm high bed after several days of giving birth), and ikat ayon (binding swinging) in the period after childbirth. This is due to the changing mindset, times and the development of science and technology (Sri Astuti, 2015).
Besides, the position of children is important in Acehnese society. It can be seen from the nickname given to them. The nickname is usually very different from the original name noted on the birth certificate. The parents Aceh. It is predicted that this condition is related to the value of children in the Acehnese family. This study will see a shift in the value of children from the aspect of religion and psychology.

B. Method
This research method uses qualitative research methods using the results of data from structured observations and interviews in three districts in Aceh namely Bireuen, Pidie Jaya and North Aceh. In Bireuen there are 4 research subjects, in Pidie Jaya there are 7 research subjects, and in North Aceh there are 3 research subjects, so the total number of research subjects is. Research subjects are families who have children who are victims of sexual harassment and victims of sexual violence.

C. Research Finding
Based on the interview, the data gathered can be presented as follow: Parents already provide religious education to their children. However, it is still less internalized in them, resulting in rape, murder, delinquency, etc. If it were so, the children do not make the parents happy, but to burden them with problems in the family, especially families who come from lower socioeconomic. This research was conducted in three locations namely Bireuen with 4 families, North Aceh 3 families, and Pidie Jaya 7 families, a total of all 14 families. The survey results in the Bireuen show even though their children are victims of sexual abuse and rape, but the parents are still able to hold their emotions because they have a strong religious education. They are happy to have children because it is assumed that they came from intact families. In North Aceh, parents pay less attention to the religious education of their children despite their parents understands religious values. This can cause cases of rape of siblings. They come from poor families, are not whole, and feel unhappy to have children because of the heavy burden of raising them. In Pidie Jaya, although their children are victims of the violation they are still happy even though sometimes they are sad to see their children and thinking about their future. There is a stigma of society that their children are victims of sexual violation, whereas their parents have a good religious education. Complete intact families that still have both parents can bring happiness, comfort, protect, and communicate well with rooms. I think also because of lack of religious education. The problem of marriage at an early age if it is ready is not an important issue that is responsible, I myself married at the age of 22 years.

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Religious values is very important, and controlling always for our children, Ask the child when leaving the house where he wants to go. Not always obeying the wishes of children depending on economic conditions.

D. Discussion
Research on the value of the child has been done by some previous There is another study in the International Journal of Springer on behalf of the Population Association of America, (Debra Friedman, 1994).
The study concluded that every behavior is influenced by the value that in social research is interesting to be discovered. Similarly, the dynamics of  (Bakhri, 2016). the Muslim community children are very influenced by their religious level. So an increase in cases of violence against children by parents is associated with the religious condition of the elderly. Therefore, this study will look at the understanding of parents about children in Aceh from the religious aspect. In addition, this study will also look at the relation between the increases in cases of violence against children that parents do with the quality of their religiosity. Bakir Yusuf Barmawi (1993), The son as a mandate of God formed a 3-dimensional relationship. First, the relationship of his parents with God motivated by their children. Second, the child's relationship (which still requires a lot of guidance) with God through his parents. Thirdly, the relationship of the child with both parents under the guidance of God.
A happy and harmonious family life, both for the believers and unbelievers, is an absolute necessity. Everyone who gets married definitely required creating the best family. Allah considers that children are the jewels of the world. This is as stated in the Qur'an Surat al-Kahfi verse 46 (Wealth and children are the jewelry of the life in this world, but the endless and best works are more eternal rewards from your God and are better to be your hope).
In relating to the responsibility of the parents to the children, Allah mentioned in Surat al-Tahrim verse 6. The meaning of the ayah is "O ye who believe, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire". Thus to educate and to teach the children about Islam is the desired way by Allah so that our children can be protected from the Fire. The way to protect yourself from hellfire is to obey all the commands of Allah. There is also the hadith from Muhammad peace upon Him related to love and appreciate the children. That is "Not part of us the people who do not love a child among us, and not glorify the greater between us". (HR. Abu Dawud and Tirmidzi).
There is also another theory on the value of children prosed by a western researcher. Gisel Tromsdorf, a researcher from Germany had done research and compiled the value of children in several countries, including Taiwan, Japan, Thailand, the Philippines, and Indonesia. Indicators of child values consist of things that are beneficial or harmful, (Ikatan Psikologi Perkembangan Indonesia, 2002), The details are as mentioned below: 1. A positive Value (The advantage of having a child) a. Emotional benefits, namely children bring joy, happiness into the lives of the parents, including the following: 1) Togetherness will release lonely 2) Love 3) Playing with the children will be free from boredom 4) Relieve the burden of the problem, the emotional tension is reduced 5) Happiness for a mom and dad 6) Happiness for families 7) Relationships between parents and children are unique and privileged. b. Personal development for parents, including the following: 1) The development of character, responsibility, maturity, and morality 2) Supplement success, strive to meet the needs of children 3) Satisfaction ourselves, as human perfection 4) Self Actualization 5) Learn from the experience of raising children 6) Motherhood, fatherhood, manhood 7) Evidence of fertility, masculinity, femininity c. Satisfaction raising children which includes: 1) Pride in the achievement of children 2) The satisfaction of the growth, the development of children 3) Children realize the hopes and aspirations of parents 4) he opportunity to teach, guide keep the value of 5) Satisfaction on the ability to raise a child 6) Satisfaction in fulfilling the needs of children. d. Gains on Economy and Security, which includes: 1) Economic assistance in old age 2) Togetherness, comfort, there are cared for in their old age, 3) Getting help in the household 4) Sharing the financial responsibility and security guarantees 5) Helping family business 6) Helping taking care of other children, like a younger sister or brother. e. Advantages descent, include: 1) Continuing family name 2) Continuing the family tradition 3) Improved family reputation 4) Have offspring 5) Children as heir, someone to inherit the family fortune 6) Religious ritual, offerings to the ancestral 7) To satisfy the desires of ancestors 8) To satisfy other relatives. f. Religious Social influence, such as: 1) Agreement on social norms 2) Agreement on religious norms 3) The child as a benefit for the community. g. Generally, the intrinsic Values of Children 1) Children as property, wealth, assets 2) Encouragement intrinsic, natural to have a child 3) A common desire to have a child.

Negative Value (Negative side of having children)
a. Financial Costs 1) Cost of Education 2) Financial Cost in general b. Emotional cost 1) The responsibility of parents 2) Discipline, moral attitude 3) The health issues 4) Attention to the future of the children success 5) Fulfilling children's desire 6) Busy, annoying, and negative behavior 7) General parenting issues 8) General emotional tension If parents fail in rolling and functioning themselves well, in caring for and educating their children, the beloved ones will become the frightening ones and the parents are hated by God. Therefore, concerning the raising up and caring of the children, Islam as written in the Koran, the Hadith, and the result of ijtihadulȃma (Islamic intellectuals) have explained in detail, both the pre-birth parenting children, as well as postbirth. Allah mentioned that children are the jewels of the world. This is as stated in the Qur'an Surat al-Kahf verse 46 (QS: Kahfi : 46), Treasures and children are the jewels of the life of the world but the righteous practices are better the reward by your Lord and better to be a hope". Therefore, on every Muslim, guarantees that every child in the family will get good care, fair, equitable and wise, is an obligation for both parents. If caring to these children once we ignore, then surely they will be damaged. Minimal will not grow and develop perfectly, (Abdur Razak Husain, 2000)

E. Conclusion
There are relations between the religious education of parents with an increasing number of violence against children in the Acehnese family either positive or negative. There is still a lack of religious knowledge of parents, so they put full responsibility to the religious teachers who do not